tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5353471140255363906.post3752902025444939998..comments2023-08-18T03:14:38.921-07:00Comments on JuJubax: The Abilene ParadoxJujubaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06189263813465023517noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5353471140255363906.post-50618476126467544172011-06-21T06:33:34.420-07:002011-06-21T06:33:34.420-07:00Hi Madhu,
எண்ணித் துணிக கருமம் துணிந்தபின்
எண்ணு...Hi Madhu, <br />எண்ணித் துணிக கருமம் துணிந்தபின் <br />எண்ணுவம் என்பது இழுக்கு<br /><br />வாய்மை எனப்படுவது யாதெனின் யாதொன்றும் <br />தீமை இலாத சொலல்<br /> <br />Cheers,<br />ThiruThirukumaran Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15599897410792370696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5353471140255363906.post-30429617481699735052011-06-13T21:06:30.630-07:002011-06-13T21:06:30.630-07:00Fascinating, as always. I imagine I am somewhat aw...Fascinating, as always. I imagine I am somewhat aware of many books worth being read but you surprise me often. :-)<br /><br />I hadn't heard about this book until now. I think I've come across the Abeline paradox before but it seems like a long time ago. A very interesting phenomenon indeed, especially in the context of KM. Another point you've dwelt upon could also be associated with KM and collaboration - and that is the education system and it's focus on individual performance rather than assisted performance. Thought-provoking! <br /><br />The story from Gandhi's grandson is something I've come across many a time. <br /><br />Looks like the book is a collation of various unusual phenomena in business/management? My Flipkart wishlist will soon groan under its weight!Nimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11227810353203036224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5353471140255363906.post-62201781328254310492011-06-06T07:55:00.196-07:002011-06-06T07:55:00.196-07:00I have a mildly amusing story in reverse along the...I have a mildly amusing story in reverse along these lines. When I was a senior during my ugrad years, I had 3 other roommates in the hostel. Our hostel and engg college complex was right next to the city train station. Over the years we, the roomies, had come to know each others' families a bit. One day one roomie's parents traveling to their hometown in train were crossing our city. Since the train would stop in the station for 15 mins, my friend was heading to the station to see his parents briefly. Since we three also knew his parents, the three of us thought it would be fun for all of us to go meet/greet them. But the three of us didn't want to push ourselves in too strongly lest we endup invading into their 15 mins of family time. While our friend, though would have liked us to join him, didn't want to pull us too hard lest we are forced to say yes to be polite and go along while being totally not interested/bored. :-) So, he went alone. Later on we were discussing it to realize all 4 of us would have gone had there been an open discussion earlier. :-)<br />-sundar.Sundarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17554681680016515259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5353471140255363906.post-12439047707368327152011-06-05T04:44:16.052-07:002011-06-05T04:44:16.052-07:00Madhu, all of us come across this phenomenon frequ...Madhu, all of us come across this phenomenon frequently in our personal and professional lives. I didnt realise<br />they have given this a name!!<br /><br />I have seen a couple of variants. In professional circumstances, very often, you are pitchforked suddenly into<br />situations wherein someone significantly important in the hierarchy (it does not matter junior or senior) comes out<br />with something, which you may not agree entirely with. I have found an effective way of dealing with this i.e. a very<br />neutral statement like `looks good, but we need to look at all aspects before arriving at a conclusion or worth pursuing<br />with greater analysis'. That neither<br />gives scope for the suggester to complain nor binds you to that position. Diplomatic, if you will. Even if this was<br />motivated by negative vibes about the suggestion, you do everything offline to put it off, rather than agree or disagree<br />with the person in public, especially if there has been no prior discussion or notice. I am sure almost everyone<br />resorts to this frequently.<br /><br />Another situation, but in personal life, I have faced repeatedly is the desire not to be seen as disagreeing with elders<br />in public - an affliction children do not have nowadays - especially if the matter is serious enough. Actually, even if the<br />elder in question is making an erroneous statement and you were asked directly to comment, you shifted from one leg<br />to another uncomfortably, grunted something which meant neither this nor that and let the moment pass. Basically,<br />you maintained silence in some way. Later on, in private, you could talk to the elder and point out the problem and<br />take the consequences personally, whatever the outcome. <br />This probably was prompted by the tricky situation my father would place me sometimes.....if one was silent, he would<br />say `if you are going to be like a cow and not express your honest opinion, whatever the circs and whoever is advocating<br />anything, then what is the use of education and open upbringing', despite knowing the fact that I was being neutral out of respect and the<br />desire to avoid confrontation in public. If one were to express an opinion, indeed, he might turn around and say `so<br />you have grown up to be so big that you want to contradict me in public!!'. So, it is a no-win situation in public, but would<br />be manageable in private, despite being called a cow!!<br /><br />But, in a matter like a dinner, unless it is something you detest, whats the big deal...flow with the team!<br /><br />VaradP.Varadarajan (Varad)https://www.blogger.com/profile/05415043609355398315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5353471140255363906.post-86732305856326251412011-06-05T02:58:16.230-07:002011-06-05T02:58:16.230-07:00Madhu-san, Nice post, I can see this happening all...Madhu-san, Nice post, I can see this happening all the time in organizations, especially organizations which value conformance more than anything else. And in many cases no one wants to be the lone person in dissonance, which requires a lot of courage and conviction. Many organizational initiatives languish because of this and everyone goes through the motion of trying to do something about it without any passion and it eventually shows in the results such initiatives produce. The irony is that when times are tough, you really need a lot of debate before any decision is taken, but that is when most people are scared to appear non-cooperative (which is often the branding one gets for questioning any proposal or decision) choose to be quiet and appear more than eager to cooperate with probably a poor proposal ;)<br /> Should probably read the book again to refresh myself..<br />Best Regards,<br />N.R. Ramesh.Ramesh N Raghavanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14569860708530040461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5353471140255363906.post-13469785580133688072011-06-02T08:51:38.093-07:002011-06-02T08:51:38.093-07:00Nice one Madhu-san.Nice one Madhu-san.Kiranhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14836288029048611017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5353471140255363906.post-74034049195286911172011-06-02T05:00:34.556-07:002011-06-02T05:00:34.556-07:00The movie is "12 angry men"The movie is "12 angry men"NSMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00886404197706119017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5353471140255363906.post-68691164698148026772011-06-02T04:50:53.474-07:002011-06-02T04:50:53.474-07:00An interesting one.
Suggest watching the movie &q...An interesting one. <br />Suggest watching the movie "ek rukha hua faisla" which was a version of "12 men jury"NSMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00886404197706119017noreply@blogger.com